Being and experiencing quiet is essential to our well being.

Silence is necessary for our brains and hearts to function optimally. It’s in the silence between words and thoughts that connections are made and where insights and integration are possible. In his book In Pursuit of Silence: Listening for Meaning in a World of Noise, George Prochnik notes that the peak of brain activity occurs in the pauses between sound. Research also shows that excessive noise adversely effects cardiovascular health. 

In an urban setting, stimuli is constant. Noise, sights and smells abound. Living in constant noise adversely effects our nervous system as well as our ability to think clearly. For a city dweller, it’s imperative to find and savor silence and stillness.

Learning to quiet

Ancient practices point us in the right direction. Meditation can offer a path to peace.

The process often evolves slowly over time. What's notable when beginning a meditation practice is that the mind is busy and can seem like a cacophony, like on our city streets. Yet, trying desperately to find quiet with a chattering mind can often provoke anxiety. 

First move

An effective way to begin is first to move the body. Conscious, mindful movement helps alleviate common aches and discomforts. Lower back pain, stiff neck, shoulder tension are a few common modern day chronic conditions.  “Movement with intelligence” is what Mr. Iyengar calls “action”(p. 28). Action is therefore conscious, responsible and mindful movement. Moving with deliberation can help still a cluttered, chattering mind. A physical practice like yoga is good for your health. Mr. Iyengar says, “When you cannot hold the body still, you cannot hold the brain still. If you do not know the silence of the body, you cannot understand the silence of the mind. Action and silence go together.” (BKSI, p.32) Once your body has been well exercised, relaxation and stillness may be tenable.  

Then sit

The practice of sitting is the next step, and requires patience. To sit well - comfortably and quietly - requires stamina. It takes time to build stamina. First, sit regularly and consistently. This is necessary in order to ultimately enjoy the benefits of meditation. Use the observation of your breath to steady your mind. Over time, begin to recognize the various thoughts and the patterns of your thoughts. Over time, learn to refrain from attaching to the thoughts and getting lost in them. Begin to cultivate equanimity which in turn, brings calm, peace, space and stillness. 

By cultivating quiet, we become better listeners, and can honor and tune into the space or silence between words that are spoken. We can begin to recognize what is said and not said, and garner a deeper understanding of what a speaker means and feels. Learning to listen well is one benefit of practicing mindfulness. 

How to Begin

For a buy mom, it can feel challenging or even impossible to find time to explore these practices. Look for small pockets of space, time when you can move mindfully, explore breath awareness and/or sit for meditation. Even if it’s only for a few minutes each day, over time, you’ll begin to notice a positive benefit.

At first, the practice of sitting may be as short as a minute or two. Continue. Be consistent, and you’ll build stamina.  If you’re nursing, you can explore a breath practice and both you and baby receive the benefits of  relaxation and healing. Playing with toddlers can become an exercise in mindful movement.

When you do these practices, you’ll discover the balance between action and stillness, helping you to think clearly, breathe easily and act with confidence and kindness.

G. Prochnik, In Pursuit of Silence: Listening for Meaning in a World of Noise (Doubleday, 2010).

BKS Iyengar, Light on Life (Rodale, Inc. 2005).

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